Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Dear Netflix

Dear Netflix,

Good job on firing a child molester. You did that quickly, without any obvious fuss or derailment. You've used your power and influence to reduce the capability of someone to actively do harm in the world. While you assuredly did it for financial reasons (namely, not wanting to be associated with a criminal), I applaud the speed and -- heck -- that you're already working on spinoffs without the criminal, thus mitigating the impact to costars.

Much love,
Me

My tax plan

My tax plan


Overriding: Simplicity.

Graduated tax percents, as per usual

No deductions. All income is income. Deferrals, like 401(k), sure, but no deductions. Including my student loans and your house. Kids are no longer a deduction. Churches are treated like regular nonprofits, so have to show their paperwork.

Income up to the poverty line is untaxed. That's 12k per adult. Kids don't count.

So, 0% between 0 dollars and 12.5k. This is $0k.

Then, 10% between 12.5k and 25k. This is $1.25k.

Then, 20% between 25k and 50k. This is $5k.

Then, 30% between 50k and 100k. This is $15k.

Then, 40% between 100k and 200k. This is $40k

Then, 50% between 200k and 500k. This is $150k.

Then, 60% between 500k and a million. This is 300k.

Then, 70% between a million and two million dollars. This is 700k.

Then, 80% on everything over two million.

Boom, tax reform without giving a tax break to millionaires. I've pissed off everyone and H&R Block will smear me to death. 

What do you hate about this?

Edit: Clarity and a typo. Stupid typos.

Monday, October 30, 2017

Anybody have:

Anybody have:
-- a modernistic card deck?
-- a historical card deck?
-- a fantasy card deck?
-- a future card deck?

Here's my hope: Make a deck with a bunch of art in it representing different time periods.

Sunday, October 29, 2017

I need game cards or tiles with specific type of evocative art: city scenes, both fantastical and realistic.

I need game cards or tiles with specific type of evocative art: city scenes, both fantastical and realistic.

So, like, maybe it's really a deck of 52 and the hearts are all fantasy scenes, the clubs are all something out of Germany in the 15th century, the diamonds are all African cities, and the clubs are all spaces scenes involving space ships and asteroid belts.

I've not run into a lot, and I've already spent some time and energy thinking about this. So, ideas are very much welcome.

Do you know of any gaming conventions at which men are not allowed?

Do you know of any gaming conventions at which men are not allowed?
Have you been to one?
Was it completely awesome?

Some quick googling only reveals events canceled for the predictable reasons.

Thursday, October 26, 2017

Help me with some math. It'll be fun.

Help me with some math. It'll be fun.

I want a society on a planet or planet-like object that has multiple modes of mass transit.

T1: Something like buses -- the local. Max distance: 5 kilometers.
T2: Something like subway/metro -- the within a city. Max distance: 50 kilometers.
T3: Something like Amtrak -- go from city to city. Max distance: 500 kilometers.
T4: Something like planes -- go from one side of a continent to the other. Max distance: 5,000 kilometers.
T5: Something like intercontinental planes -- go from one side of a planet to another. Max distance: 50,000 kilometers (goes around the world)

Assumptions:
A1: For 1-5, the max time from end to another is an hour.
A2: For 1-3, assume lots of stops. Feel free to assume stops for 4-5, but explain how.
A3: For the sake of the math, assume constant acceleration or say why it is bogus.

Question: What acceleration do you need to get this to work? What amount of energy do you need to expend? What information do you need or need to make up to answer those questions? Can they all be on the ground, or is there a point at which you must fly?

is there a different shape to the world that makes this easier? Harder?

Tuesday, October 24, 2017

This post is mostly for the men.

This post is mostly for the men. If you're unsure if that applies to you, use your own judgement -- I ain't the gender police.

These are some dos and don't. I am up for answering questions on these. I'll moderate if necessary.

Some things that might just happen to you -- yes, you!
1. You witness sexual harassment.
DONT: Ignore it.

Instead, Say: “We don’t do that here.” or “Not cool, dude.”

This does a couple of things:
-- Jerks know not to do it in front of you, and that you are not with them!
-- Victims know that you are on their side. And have their back. DOUBLE WIN.

Do not expect a cookie for this. It is literally the least thing you can do in the situation. You witnessed a human being being victimized and opened your mouth from a position where you cannot be harmed.

Want a cookie? don't ask the victim. Ask me. I will send you a cookie.

2. You screwed up.
Do NOT SAY: I am sorry you were offended.

This is bullshit. Do not ever do it. I cannot stress this enough. Do not do that thing.

Instead, say: I am sorry I did . I fucked up. I have learned , and will strive not to fuck up this way again. I have done to try to rectify it. Thank you for telling me that I fucked up. I appreciate your candor.

Oh, and? Do not expect whoever you fucked over to accept your apology or be your friend. Turns out, they probably don't need your friendship, especially if it is contingent on doing emotional labor for you.

If you want to brag about doing this? Tell me. I'll even give you a cookie.

3. Something bad happened to someone, and they told you about it.
DO NOT: Get angry on their behalf.

DO: Believe them! Then, ask what you can do. See, instead of, for example, beating someone up? Ask the person harmed what you can do.

Try this: Wow, that makes me really angry, but I’m going to try to keep my cool, and not do anything that makes you uncomfortable. How can I help?

If you want to brag about doing this? Tell me. I'll even give you a cookie.

4. You think are are being hit on, and are not interested!
Step 1: Be flattered!
DO NOT SAY: You are sooo pretty. If I were unmarried/30 years younger/not your boss/etc.

OMG, don't ever say that last one. I puked a little in my mouth writing it.

Instead, drop into conversation: "My wife ... ", or "My monogamous partner", or even, "I don't enjoy intimacy/sex/boning", depending on the situation.

If that doesn't work: scratch your nose with your wedding ring.
If that doesn't work, SAY THIS: I am monogamous and married. I'm flattered. Thank you. No.

Don't wear a wedding ring, and this happens a lot? Do what waitresses have done for decades to avoid you: wear a ring. I don't care if you are married or not, you have my permission to wear a wedding ring to make it more obvious that you are not available.

They statements will almost always be taken as a polite statement of "I am not interested in pursuing sex"

Also, guess what? This might happen 3 times in your life. It'll happen to every women you know three times every day. You get no cookies for this.

5. And that's bring us to: You like someone and want to see them naked/have sex!
Neat! That's a fun feeling!

Have they mentioned a partner? Are they wearing a wedding ring? Did they scratch their nose with their wedding ring? Are you in a position of power over them? Have they said they are not interested in sex?

If yes, DO NOT TRY TO FUCK THEM.

Yes, sometimes wedding rings do not indicate a monogamous lifestyle. But, a wedding ring probably indicates not wanting to be hit on -- and that is sufficient.

If you want a cookie for not hitting on someone who is clearly uninterested? I am not offering those.

6. You think you are being hit on, and want to see the other person naked/have sex with them. You're not sure if you are being hit on, though. You are not in a position of power over them, and they are not forced to be around you.

DONT: Grab them. Holy fuck don't ever do that.

Instead, try your words, maybe: "I think you are pretty great. I think you feel the same way. Wanna make out, or have I read this wrong?"

And guess what? If the answer is anything other than a resounding 'HELL YES", then the answer is "No!!!!" and you should give the person some space. Like, book the fuck out. Go to another room. Leave the party. Assume they do not want to talk to you.

If you voluntarily leave a party after asking someone to be romantic with you, and tell me? I will give you a cookie.

Some of this borrowed from Mickey Schulz:
https://geekgirlsrule.net/2017/10/24/geek-girls-rule-314-again-really/

Other parts from my brain.
https://geekgirlsrule.net/2017/10/24/geek-girls-rule-314-again-really/

Monday, October 23, 2017

There's a thing in Jay Treat's larp Strange Gravity, which is essentially Star Trek: The larp that I want to steal...

There's a thing in Jay Treat's larp Strange Gravity, which is essentially Star Trek: The larp that I want to steal and normalize and use forever in every game.

Playshops.

In Strange Gravity, first we make characters. There's some good tech there, but not what I want to focus on.

Then, we go around and do character introductions. When you introduce, you say what sort of interaction you want. Anyone at the table can then pop into a small scene -- setup as no more than 5 to 15 seconds, but usually more like 30 -- to show that type of interaction.

These playshops are used as a sort of penumbra for the game. They aren't canon per say, but are used to inform play.

Like trailers before a pilot, or most pilot episodes.

I want to bring this into my pbta games. Instead of just doing Hx, really talk that up into a short scene that tells us how the characters interact.

Whatcha think? Sounds neat, or sound like a bad mixture?

Scrum is the art of, every day, asking the same three questions and expecting a different result.

Scrum is the art of, every day, asking the same three questions and expecting a different result.

Namely, for those just tuning in:
-- What did you do yesterday?
-- What will you do today?
-- What is blocking your progress?

These questions ensure the dev team know what everyone else is working on, and that slips in progress only last a day before they are reported.

So, if I say: I'll take items A and B today, then tomorrow if I say "I got done item A, but not B. The block is I need access to the database, and the DBAs aren't giving it to me" -- then the team already knows that we're a little behind on B, and the problem. Most likely, the scrum master than takes it as a to do to go fix it.

How well this works depends on how much the team trusts each other. And some other stuff, but trust is hugely important.

Friday, October 20, 2017

I've been work travelling a lot.

I've been work travelling a lot.

I am seeking other ideas and impressions on if this makes sense. This is a whole new thing for me.

I just got:
-- 4 amazon basics packing cubes. These are new to me.
-- a replacement bag: a relatively large shoulder messenger bag
-- a new laptop carrying bag, also messenger style.

Goal 1: When travelling, get the laptop and packing cubes into the new bag.
Goal 2: Be able to pack for trips in the normal course of doing laundry, such that for a trip all I do is grab packing cubes and go.

I will probably not take the laptop carrying bag when travelling, but if it fits together, then all the better.

I'm thinking to keep the packing cubes filled, such like:
First night cube: 2 undies, 1 under shirt, 1 overshirt, socks.
Second night cube: Jeans, 2 undies, 1 under shirt, 1 overshirt, socks
Second night cube: jamjams & exercise gear, including shoes for the purpose.
Fourth cube, for third nights: same as the first cube.

My over-shirts are all LL Bean shirts; I'm essentially in tech, and can get away without wearing oxfords. (hooray).

That gets me through three night excursions without thinking too hard about it.

Does this make sense?

Last night, in Apocalypse world.

Last night, in Apocalypse world.

We do pickup games, with a lot of one shots. This may be one such. We had three players:

Me as Maestro D. I was running a classy establishment, with meat on sticks, booze, and art on the walls.

Kat, as Savi the savvyhead: She fixed my AC. I have an AC? SWEET.

Chuck, as the landfall marine: I saved the best for last. We got to see the ridiculous landfall marine rules. Btw: 6-harm ap area messy far? That takes out buildings. He made promises.

Sweet, lying promises.

This week has been a mess. Here's some things I've been thinking about:

This week has been a mess. Here's some things I've been thinking about:

On Creeps
The way that creepy adult dudes act is not the same as the way socially awkward adult dudes act. I really wish people would stop perpetuating this myth.

If you start with "Don't worry, I'm safe/ not a creep/ old/ anything really", it's a red flag. It means you know you're being weird. Socially awkward people don't do that. Creeps do.

Socially awkward people don't isolate you from others before they weird all over you. Creeps do.

Socially awkward people don't engineer situations so it's down to he said/she said. Creeps do.

Creeps know the line they can walk so that other dudes will chalk up their behavior to them being socially awkward. Believe women when they've worked up the courage to complain about a friend of yours, when they've gone over the interaction in their minds a million times, when they've second and third and 400th guessed themselves and told you about it anyway. Don't ask if they're sure he's not just socially awkward.

Yeah, I'm mostly using creep as shorthand here. They are manipulative and know exactly how to appear "harmless" to other dudes and anyone who isn't their target.

On Believing Women
Men, when a woman tells you about a man who used his power to discredit her, throw her under the bus, or otherwise silence her, that is an expression of trust. DO. NOT. Defend that man to her. That is a violation of trust and a clear signal that you do not have her back.

I can guarantee you that woman will quietly tell other women about you not having her back, and that when women end up not trusting you it will be your fault.

On harassing within the community
So, like, seriously? Has anyone else noticed that the serial harassers and bullies seem to congregate in one specific RPG community?

Like, I know there are people who find good, safe spaces there. But for me? I've seen nothing but toxicity.

Help me out, folks. What's redeemable over there?

Cause I just had a dude go from circled to blocked and reported in under 10 minutes.

On Cookies
International Men's Day is November 19th.

If you are wondering when and where you get recognized for not being part of "all men," that's when. That's the day you get your ally cookies.

Caveat : if some asshole murders a bunch of women the day before, we're gonna have to wait a week.

On Geek feminism
Geek feminism suffers from the fact that so many women think of themselves, or have, as "exceptional girls," "not like those other girls," "guys respect me...." Right up until they don't.

The above were all written by women, and used with permission.
Namely: Misha B, Anna Kreider, Stephanie Bryant, Mickey Schulz

Because what we don't need is another cis white dude explaining that this shit is not OK.

When you read these were all written by women, did your views change? Tell me how.

I'll be around to discuss, but warning: I will moderate hard. Things I write in the comments will be my own words.

Thursday, October 19, 2017

My life is getting weird. Yesterday, I assigned action items to execs at United Airlines. What in the world.

My life is getting weird. Yesterday, I assigned action items to execs at United Airlines. What in the world.

Wednesday, October 18, 2017

Am I tall and action oriented?

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

I am so excited about the mage: the ascension larp.

I am so excited about the mage: the ascension larp.

I wanna talk about it ALL THE TIME.

Monday, October 16, 2017

I just learned about the Mage: The ascension larp.

I just learned about the Mage: The ascension larp.

I am more excited about it than I ever have been about any larp, maybe ever. I am late, and hope they have available space.

Excited. hopeful. Anxious they don't have space.
I'm sorry.

Sunday, October 15, 2017

Individuals and Interactions more than processes and tools

Individuals and Interactions more than processes and tools
Working games more than comprehensive documentation
Player Collaboration more than contract negotiation
Responding to Change more than following a plan

Does this sound familiar to anyone?

Saturday, October 14, 2017

Be pleased: I am now a certified scrum master. AMA.

Friday, October 13, 2017

After Excession by Mr Ian Banks, I am skipping Inversion and going to Look To Windward.

After Excession by Mr Ian Banks, I am skipping Inversion and going to Look To Windward.

Happy to talk about why and crap.

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

I'm looking to dedicate a bag to overnight work trips.

I'm looking to dedicate a bag to overnight work trips. A change of clothes, room for work laptop. Potentially a second change of clothes.

Anyone have a favorite bag to recommend?

Bags bags bags Rob Donoghue loves bags bags bags.

Capitalism: tool of the patriarchy?

Capitalism: tool of the patriarchy?

Why or why not, please.

Finished Gilmore Girls: A Year In the Life last night. Help me process?

Finished Gilmore Girls: A Year In the Life last night. Help me process?

Assuredly spoilers galore in the comments.

Tuesday, October 10, 2017

#WorldMentalHealthDay

#WorldMentalHealthDay

I've seen a shrink twice; both times, I would have benefited from starting sessions earlier, and both times I did not start sessions earlier in part because of the stigma.

The first time was during a bad romantic relationship. The second was during a bad professional relationship. In both instances, it was pretty clear to the shrink what I needed to do, and our time together was essentially him convincing me of that.

I get anxiety. I've had a few panic attacks -- the first when in an underground dungeon with no light. In Germany. Yikes. I've had a few others; I am what may be called sensitive.

Feel free to ask questions.

Monday, October 2, 2017

Any suggestions for how to fix this?


Any suggestions for how to fix this?

Rob Donoghue​, George Austin​

Sunday, October 1, 2017

Occasional reminder: There are shitbags on the internet, and the best thing to do is to uncircle and block.

Occasional reminder: There are shitbags on the internet, and the best thing to do is to uncircle and block. Do not engage.